What do you do with Anger?

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person or event, or yourself. Memories of traumatic or other events can also trigger angry feelings.

Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats. On the other hand, physically lashing out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us or responding to laws and social norms can place limits on how far our anger can take us. People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha

Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you must learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met without hurting others.

Anger can be suppressed and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses. Take steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You may not be able to get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change all of them, but you can learn to control your reactions. Contact us to find other ways to deal with anger and other emotions.

 There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.Plato