How Secure are you Feeling?
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs puts safety and security right after our physiological needs. And the last two years has caused many peoples’ safety and security net to drop if not hit bottom. Concerns that perhaps have never surfaced before like, “How can I pull this off?” “What will be the ‘new normal’ in either our work or our individual environments?”
Being insecure can affect every area of your life! For many, this starts as a child. We think we can conquer the world, but somewhere between childhood and adulthood, our enthusiasm and natural inclinations to dream big are squashed. Parents, teachers, and peers start imposing their own beliefs—about what we can and cannot do in life. For some, these beliefs affect everything we dislike about ourselves as an adult, sometimes unknowingly.
I used to think anger, fear, anxiety, and procrastination were the things that needed to be overcome, yet I found out they were symptoms. The real reason they lingered on was that the insecurity was the foundation they were built on. I have shared in past posts that the three most prevalent issues people exhibit are: I am not enough, I am different/defective, and/or I can never accomplish/attain/have that. Each of them is a derivative of our insecurities.
So, what can we do about it?
Examine your self-limiting beliefs and kill them. Push through the unfamiliar “Truths” until they become the familiar “Facts” – or a natural part of you!
Practice the 4 P’s: Be positive, be in the present, make it personal and practice.
Raise your curiosity level: Learn something new daily, practice mindfulness and meditate often.
Own/face/overcome self-doubt or fears by identifying them and addressing them. Stop any victim mentality. Ask yourself how you can become more resilient in life’s inevitable obstacles.
Stress = unrealized expectations on demands, generally created by a Lack of: Control, Predictability and Progress. When stressed, ask yourself how you feel about each of the lacks.
Move closer to your threats, discover more about them. It does no good to avoid, deny or ignore them. Spend time with them and kill them.
Ask yourself often: “What happens next, then what”?
Embrace a growth mindset. Believe that you can become better and improve yourself by learning from your mistakes, instead of wasting time blaming others and complaining about how incompetent you think you are.
Harness the power of confidence. It’s natural to have doubts and fears, but when you’re self-confident and have the right mindset you can overcome your fears. Being self-confident doesn’t mean you won’t experience negative emotions; it just makes it easier for you to bounce back from any difficult situation. Contact us to find out more.
